Disclaimer: be prepared for sentiment sap and love. If you can handle it, read on.
Five. That’s how many years my husband and I celebrate this month. Now, to those of you who are veterans of this thing called marriage, that might not seem like very long. That’s okay, this is our moment though, so bare with us newlyweds (we can still be newlyweds at five years right?).
Time has flown by.
How can five years fly by so fast?
I look back at these photos of the day we vowed our lives to one another, and I remember being so, so happy, my face hurt from smiling so much – as many others do on their wedding day. I remember the certainty that this is the man for me.
All photos by Pure Joy Photography (so fun when your photographers happen to be great friends of yours too)
Was the day perfect? No, but to me it was.
But now, Ben and I always say the same things when we talk about that day. “I wish I could have talked to every guest,” I always say. And he responds, “I wish we would have had water for everyone at the ceremony”.
It was a very, very hot day. Of course we didn’t notice really because we were standing under this gorgeous canopy my father-in-law made.
There were other things that went wrong – like my speech getting locked in our hotel room (thanks Tim and Tina for finding it for me in time!) – my gorgeous bridesmaids getting stranded downtown (they were laughing about it, they’re amazing) – the car breaking down on the way to the ceremony (I mean, the bride is supposed to be late anyway right?). But in the end, all of those things make up our wedding day. We laugh about those things. Even in the moment, we laughed. I actually didn’t know my speech was missing, but my bridesmaids laughed, and hid it well as to not stress me out.
My favorite part of my wedding day was our ceremony. I know, that’s a pretty huge part, but it was. We were right in the middle of downtown, pledging our lives to each other before God, scripture being read, love being declared, family and friends all together. Can’t get much more public than that… which isn’t what we were going for, we just liked the spot. But there we were, getting married, and God’s love was on a microphone for all to hear. It couldn’t have been more perfect.
A wedding day is just the first step of a journey that a husband and wife make. Our scripture for our marriage has always been Matthew 6:33. I know, it’s not the typical scripture. Seek first the Kingdom of God and it’s righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. As a husband and wife both put God first in their lives and in their marriage, everything else falls into place. That’s why we chose this scripture. I want my husband to love God first, then me. If you read 1 Corinthians 13 (at the end of this post), you’ll understand why. God’s kind of love is so selfless, and it’s impossible to love this way without God. As a man and wife seek God first, and then serve and love each other second, both taking care of their spouse before themselves, it’s amazing how all our needs are met. If I have any advice for newlyweds, or people considering marriage, this is it.
A wedding day is the start of a marriage. And the marriage is so much more important than the wedding day. Our wedding day was beautiful. I’m thankful for that. I cherish every photo and every memory of that day. But every day since has been more beautiful. Even in the ups and downs of life.
I mean, this man loves me before my makeup is on, and on my absolute worst day. Eek.
Thank you to all of our friends and family who have been with us from that first day until now and will continue to be there. We love all of you so much.
Happy anniversary, honey. I love you more than I can ever say. Thanks for doing life with me. Thanks for asking me. (I know, you’re welcome for saying yes)
And now for a shout out….
Happy birthday David!! Thanks for sharing your birthday with us!
I know, we still owe you big.
1 Corinthians 13
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,but have not love, it profits me nothing.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.