What’s Stealing Your Peace| 10 Steps to Getting it Back

Do you walk in peace everyday, all day?  Once you’ve found that peace, do you stay in that peace?  Have you ever really, truly, experienced real inner peace?

Well, if you struggle to stay in peace consistently, this post is for you.  I really hope I can get this out the way God has given it to me.

Life is real.  Let’s face it.  Everyone faces trials in their lives, everyone faces hardship, everyone has hurts and regrets.  Some are big, some are small.  But we all have them.  Who are we to judge if someone is in more or less pain than the next?  Only God really knows what goes on in hearts and minds.


We must show compassion to one another.  Which means we must be HEALED.  We cannot love completely while still hurting.  It’s been said, hurt people hurt people.  We need to come along side each other and carry one another through the hard times instead of judging.  Broken people need healing, love and compassion… not judgement.

So how do we do this?  Freedom.  The opposite of broken is freedom.  And in freedom there is liberty.  And you can’t have liberty without peace.  But, the kind that comes from heaven, the kind that brings ultimate freedom, the kind that brings incredible joy that even in the midst of the hardest times in our lives we can say, in the face of adversity or in the face of ease, “I have peace”.  An unshakeable peace.

Philippians 4:7 NASB
And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

It’s the kind of peace that no one can understand because it comes from the throne room of Heaven.

In looking up the Greek translation of the word “peace”, I loved what I found.  In the Greek it means eirēnē.  (I love the concordance at blueletterbible.org).

eirēnē (peace)

  1. a state of national tranquillity
    exemption from the rage and havoc of war

  2. peace between individuals, i.e. harmony, concord

  3. security, safety, prosperity, felicity, (because peace and harmony make and keep things safe and prosperous)

  4. of the Messiah’s peace the way that leads to peace (salvation)

  5. of Christianity, the tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and content with its earthly lot, of whatsoever sort that is

  6. the blessed state of devout and upright men after death

Do you want that?

Peace.  When I looked this word up on dictionary.com there were so many definitions, but since this post is concentrating on inner peace, I’m only going to share a few of the definitions given (you can read the rest here).  Peace – Freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, anxiety, an obsession, etc.; tranquillity; serenity.  A state of tranquillity or serenity.  

Do you want that?

Freedom.  The state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement orunder physical restraint.  (Again, more definitions can be read here.)

Could it be said, possibly, that if we have inner peace, then we are free?  Nothing binding us.  Nothing confining us.  Free from fear, anxiety, distraction.

2 Timothy 1:7 Amplified
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm, well-balanced mind and self-control].

Real freedom has nothing to do with how much money we have.  Real peace has nothing to do with how busy our lives are, how obedient our children are, how great our jobs are, or how good our grades are for those in school, how big or small our homes are, or how great our car is.  It has nothing to do with whether you come from a broken home, if you have a broken marriage yourself, whether you have children or whether your heart yearns for them.  I didn’t say it was easy to get this peace – and yet it is.  Jesus’ heart breaks for the hurting, it breaks for the broken.  But He wants to give you life and life abundantly.  He wants you to have peace.

Paul had peace in prison, did he not?  I look at some people who have lost so much, and yet they lean on the Lord in such an astounding way.  They are heroes.

In the midst of a storm, you can have peace.  If you are a believer, you might know this in the factual sense, but do we as believers walk in this day to day?  Do you?  You never have to be without peace, if you have Jesus.  It doesn’t mean you don’t hurt at times, it doesn’t mean that trails stop coming… it just means that in midst of it, you feel the presence of God.  You let God heal you, you trust Him even though things aren’t making sense.  You trust that He will work it out for you because you love him.  You don’t give into fear, because you know who your God is.

Romans 8:28 NASB
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

It doesn’t mean we are perfect… but we get back up and pick peace up with us.

I can think of a few times in the past few months that I haven’t carried peace – like when my car broke down 2.5 hours from home, I was by myself (thankfully my mom had my boys), and couldn’t get a hold of my husband, and my phone was dying… after having it towed home, we found out that it wasn’t the transmission like the first mechanic thought, but something pretty simple.  But God did bring a lot of good out of that time, I just couldn’t see it in the moment.  God provided in the midst of all of that.

Sometimes things happen because God wants to teach us something… like another time recently I wasn’t holding onto peace was when my littlest was not napping well.  I made everyone tip toe around the house, and you know what?  It didn’t matter how loud or quiet it was, he would always sleep the same.  But I was miserable to be around in that time (almost as miserable as my over tired 19 month old), I mean, nap time wasn’t even a real break because I was so overbearingly concerned about his nap being ruined.

Then one day I realized it was stealing my peace, and I determined not to let it any longer.  I stopped tip toeing around the house.  I stopped planning what I was going to do during his nap, and just went with it.  His naps went from being an hour/hour half sometimes to sometimes two or even two and half hours.  I stopped stressing, released it to the Lord, and then realized He was trying to teach me something… and the test would have been a whole lot shorter had I not fought it so long.

Humph.  Oh well, at least I learned the lesson.

What’s stealing your peace?  Sometimes it’s the lies of the enemy.  Sometimes it’s being unthankful.

1 Peter says this about women and peace.

1 Peter 3:4 AMPLIFIED
but let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, [one that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature] which is very precious in the sight of God.

As women, I think the enemy targets our peace.  I believe it’s our job to set an atmosphere of peace wherever we are, and that’s why the enemy doesn’t like it when we aren’t in turmoil.

No man wants to be near us, no woman either for that matter (unless it’s to gossip or be miserable together)…

Proverbs 21:9 AMPLIFIED
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop [on the flat roof, exposed to the weather] Than in a house shared with a quarrelsome (contentious) woman.

And all the men said amen!

Walking in peace has to be intentional.  So I’ve written down some steps to get you started.

10 Steps To Peace

  1. Make Jesus the Centre of Your Life

    Read His word, be in prayer every day.  First thing if you can, or as soon as possible.  And end the day the same way.  Prayer and fasting should be a regular part of your life as well.

  2. Choose to Not to Complain

    Make a habit of NOT complaining.

  3. Be Accountable!

    Find someone you trust – a leader or mentor in your church, or a good friend, even your husband to confess your struggles to.  Someone who will tell you what you need to hear not necessarily what you want to hear.  Let this person know you want to cultivate peace in your life, and ask them to pray for you.

  4. Remind Yourself

    Write positive reminders on post its if you have to and put them all over the place where you will see them.  Focus on scriptures that talk about peace, and the promises of God.

  5. Be Thankful

    Make a point of telling the Lord what you’re thankful.  Make a list from time to time.(Here’s a few to get you started: salvation, food on the table (even if you don’t have it, pray for it as though you do have it), clothes on your back)

  6. Don’t Hide, Get to church!

    Fellowship and worship with other believers.  Get involved in our local church if you aren’t already.  By reaching out to others it helps us to not focus so much on ourselves.

  7. Set an Atmosphere of Peace in Your Home

    Pray through it, and put praise and worship music on.  Check out my new worship playlist tab for praise and worship suggestions.

  8. Don’t Judge

    Make a conscious decision not to be critical of others.  You never know what situations others are facing.  You might think to yourself, “I have it worse than that person” and that might or not be true.  But regardless, choose to bless and be a blessing.  Choose peace.

  9. Forgiveness

    Ask Jesus to forgive you where you haven’t been a pursuer of His peace.  It’s not a condemnation thing.  It’s a freedom thing.  You might even have to make some things right with others, in asking them for forgiveness.  Ask the Lord, He will show you.

  10. Communion

    Make taking communion a regular part of your life.  Remembering what Christ did for us on the Cross really puts things into perspective.  He did it for freedom, and to have a relationship with us.  He conquered it all on the cross.


Before I end this post I want to say this.  Sometimes it’s an incredibly difficult loss that keeps you up at night, and has you grieving through every day – but there is hope.  God is near to the broken hearted.  My heart hurts for you.  And I pray that in reading this you will believe that there is hope, that you can laugh again.  That you can find peace and hope in the Lord.

No matter what your circumstances are, if you want this peace, pray this prayer.

“Jesus, I need You.  Regardless of the chaos and pain in this world, I want to be a carrier of Your peace.  To not be led by what I see, but what Your word says is true.  Please help me not to get distracted from living in peace and freedom.  Not hiding away from trials, but facing them as your son/daughter.  I pray that others would see your peace, love, and joy in my life and know that there’s something different in my life, that they might also want this amazing gift.  Thank you for loving me, please speak to me everyday, heal my mind, heal my heart, make me whole, that I might live completely unhindered for You.  I want to be a pursuer of peace.  In Jesus name, Amen.”

Be sure to watch/listen to the powerful song “No Longer Slaves” after this Psalm.

Psalm 62

My soul waits in silence for God only;
From Him is my salvation.
He only is my rock and my salvation,
My stronghold; I shall not be greatly shaken.

How long will you assail a man,
That you may murder him, all of you,
Like a leaning wall, like a tottering fence?
They have counseled only to thrust him down from his high position;
They delight in falsehood;
They bless with their mouth,
But inwardly they curse. Selah.

My soul, wait in silence for God only,
For my hope is from Him.
He only is my rock and my salvation,
My stronghold; I shall not be shaken.
On God my salvation and my glory rest;
The rock of my strength, my refuge is in God.
Trust in Him at all times, O people;
Pour out your heart before Him;
God is a refuge for us. Selah.

Men of low degree are only vanity and men of rank are a lie;
In the balances they go up;
They are together lighter than breath.
Do not trust in oppression
And do not vainly hope in robbery;
If riches increase, do not set your heart upon them.
Once God has spoken;
Twice I have heard this:
That power belongs to God;
And lovingkindness is Yours, O Lord,
For You recompense a man according to his work.

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